‘Eventually he wakes up, comes downstairs, and says, “Hey, you didn’t cook or nothing?” and I’m like ???’: 25-year-old man complains that his girlfriend didn’t cook for him while he was asleep and only focused on hair and makeup

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Oct 6, 2026 12:30 PM EDT

I'm surprised she is actually asking herself whether she is being inconsiderate

We're in 2026, and some women still think their duty is to cook and clean for their boyfriends. It doesn't matter whether the boyfriends contribute in any shape or form to the relationship; they're simply not expected to. In fact, they're not expected to do anything but exist and be catered to by their girlfriends.

I thought that dynamic was a thing of the past, but as I read more and more stories from Reddit, it seems that it isn't. To me, this type of dynamic is a valid option if it works for you, of course, but at least we should try to make it fair. If you're supposed to cook and clean, then your boyfriend should be supposed to do something else; at the very least, support you financially.

That said, I'm glad the internet exists nowadays because the woman who posted this story is getting to a much broader audience than she would've years ago. Maybe, at another time, she would've told this only to her family, and she wouldn't have been able to hear different takes and opinions.

Also, if you want, the internet can give you anonymity, so you can talk about things without fear of being judged or recognized. That's a truly powerful tool when it comes to complicated situations like the one below.

Luckily, this woman lives in 2026; she posted this story on Reddit, and out here we are not about shaming anyone for liking makeup or for choosing to cook whenever they want.

As I always say, not every situation is solvable; sometimes people show their true colors, and you should walk away. It's the only option.

Imagine living a life where you only have to cook for yourself and can do so whenever you please! Amazing

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  • AIO bc my bf got mad that i didn’t cook while he was sleeping?

    my (23f) boyfriend (25m) took a nap and before he went to sleep, i asked him if he was hungry. he said no, then asked if i was hungry and i said no too. il told him to just take his nap and we'd figure out
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  • what we were gonna eat when he woke up. he said okay and went to sleep. while he was sleeping, i got bored and started doing my hair and makeup just for fun. eventually he wakes up, comes
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  • downstairs, and says, "d in, you didn't cook or nothing?" and i'm like ??? you never told me what you wanted. i told him i would've cooked while he was sleeping if i knew he wanted me to.
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  • i took some chicken out of the fridge and asked if he wanted me to make that with some sides. he starts holding his stomach like he's starving and says he doesn't think he can wait for it to cook, so he
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  • suggests we just go grab something quick and i can cook the chicken when we get back. he goes upstairs to get dressed, and i'm downstairs waiting for like 15 minutes. i text him and he doesn't answer, so i go
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  • upstairs and he's literally laying down with his eyes closed. i ask if he's sleeping because i thought he was getting dressed and tell him i'm kinda hungry now too.
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  • then he suddenly says, "why didn't you cook while i was asleep?" and says it should've just made the chicken because "why does it matter what i wanted?" he brought up how i cooked while he was on his way home from
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  • work one time. the thing is, he's pretty picky about food, and the last time i made a random dish without asking what he wanted, he didn't really like it and A LOT of it ended up getting wasted. so from then on, i always
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  • made sure we agreed on a dish before i cook it. i told him that i was trying to avoid that happening again. he didn't really respond to that and instead said, "all you care about is your hair and makeup right now."
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  • that honestly p ed me off because i feel like i was trying to be considerate.i literally asked if he was hungry before he went to sleep, he said no, and when he woke up i immediately offered to cook. i also wasn't
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  • expecting him to suddenly want food and then get mad that i didn't read his mind. now he has an attitude with me. was i actually being inconsiderate?
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    Clearly he can't cook for himself

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